Moneybags Magoo

Moneybags Magoo: Parents Visiting and Salary Questions

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Dear Moneybags Magoo,

My parents are coming to visit, and I’m finally at the age where I actually bring in a paycheck. They’ve always paid for me, but now that I’m making money, should I pay when we go out? How do I handle that transition?

Yours truly,

Flying-outta-the-nest-with-dolla-dolla-billz-y’all

Dear Flying-outta-the-nest-with-dolla-dolla-billz-y’all,

What a considerate question-asker you are! Never expect them to, but always be thankful if they do. If you have the means, buy for them every once in a while. If a dinner tab is too hefty, try taking the family out to ice cream or have them over for dinner at your place.

Dear Moneybags Magoo,

 What money topics are off-limits or rude to talk about with friends or family? What if I need money advice?

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Not Emily Post

Dear Not Emily Post,

Well, you sure know how to ask tricky questions! It really does depend on your relationship with a person. For things like rent and house prices, it’s a little easier to talk about, because that information is generally public (hello Zillow!). However, it can often come across as rude and invasive to ask questions about salary, car cost, any inheritance questions, and how much a person makes. For the most culturally acceptable manners, in general don’t ask money questions of someone unless the other person brings it up (Moneybags Magoo excluded, of course: learning purposes, you know?).

However, if you are just finding your way into personal finance, do find someone you trust deeply and someone who is good with money to aid you in your decisions (I talk to my wise old tortoise father. He always knows and it is so helpful to get his perspective). Don’t necessarily ask pointed questions about their money, but inform them as much as you feel comfortable to get their wise sage advice.

Dear Moneybags Magoo,

What should I say when a friend asks me how much I make? What about when a recruiter asks me in a job interview?

Sincerely,

Cat has eaten my tongue

Dear Cat has eaten my tongue,

If it is a potential employer, avoid giving a number. List the industry average or a range (this benefits you in the salary discussion if they give a number first). If it is a friend asking, be vague or come up with a roundabout answer. A few options if they ask how much you make:

For the snarky:

“Not as much as I wish!”

“Not enough to quit my job and ride on a yacht for the rest of my life.”

“10,000 golden dubloons. The exchange rate is top secret. Sorry.”

For the sincere:

“I’m very thankful for what I make.”

“My salary is decent enough.”

For the direct:

“I’m not comfortable sharing that.”

For the passive:

“How about this weather we’re having?!”

Good luck. Always an awkward turtle, that one.

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Moneybags Magoo: Housing

Hi there, I’m Moneybags Magoo. Ask me a question and I’ll pull deep into my pockets of wisdom for an answer.* This month’s theme: housing.

Dear Moneybags Magoo,

Word on the street (slash internet) is to spend 30% or less of income on housing. I'm trying to figure out how much to spend on rent (floor-to-ceiling windows! Granite countertops! Hardwood floors!). Should I try to skimp in this area or can I flirt with the big-chunk-of-income realm?  -Sincerely, Apartment Dreaming

Dear Apartment Dreaming,

The short answer for your rental woes: only pay enough in rent to feel safe and comfortable. For most, the ultimate goal is to buy a house (because those monthly payments will come back to your pockets, while renting puts your money in someone else’s pockets). By staying on the lighter side of rent, you’ll save more money for your down payment. If homeownership is not on your radar, the money you save in rent can be invested.

 

Dear Moneybags Magoo,

I am trying to buy a house, but a down payment would require me to sell all my hair for wigs and also sell my soul. I would really like to buy within the year, but I won't have enough saved within that time for a down payment. I've debated asking my parents to borrow money. Do people actually do this, or should I just pay for the private mortgage insurance (a couple hundred dollars per month)?

Cordially, No Flippin’ Idea What to Do

Dear No Flippin’ Idea What to Do,

First, I would hesitate that you should buy within the year if you can’t afford it quite yet. Let’s apparate back in time to ‘08 and ‘09 with the housing crisis. People bought houses they couldn’t afford. You really want to get into a house with a mortgage you can pay for, because bad things actually happen if you don’t (and think about your mortgage if your significant other loses their job). Ideally, wait until you have that magic down payment.

If you are still considering borrowing money from your parents, many first-time buyers will get assistance in one form or another if their family is in a position to do so. If we’re talking about a loan, it all depends on your relationship with your folks, and you, dear reader, will know best what that looks like. Since both money and family dynamics are involved, even with a healthy relationship and timely payments, this situation has the potential to get really nasty (financial control is a real thing - think about the icy glare from your mother when you buy a morning coffee while still owing them $30K). Dare I say it: any savings you may gain from family borrowing might not be worth the risk of complicating your family ties. Again, you know best if borrowing money from your family is workable.

 

Dear Moneybags Magoo,

My significant other and I are house hunting. Our Barbie dream house costs a little more than we want to spend. Do you think we would regret buying a more expensive house than a cheaper one? What's a good rule of thumb?

Sincerely, Wishing for a White Picket Fence

Dear Wishing for a White Picket Fence,

This one is easy: buy within your means. You will never regret committing to a mortgage that leaves you sleeping peacefully each night, rather than tossing and turning while thinking about your next mortgage payment. You can buy a bigger house down the road (literally or figuratively), and there will be plenty of opportunities to buy nicer houses as long as you can afford it.  

A few notes on house buying for kicks and giggles: whatever number the bank approves you for doesn’t always account for things like eating food and buying gas every day. You don’t have to use the entire loan amount you’re approved for (and you probably shouldn’t. Again, we lived through the recession. Still fresh). Another fun trick: ask the bank about 15-year, 20-year, or even 25-year loans if you have the financial bandwidth for a higher mortgage. You’ll save money by shortening the life cycle of the loan even by a few years.

Also, like many things, you’ll probably end up spending a little more on a house than you planned (between buying new things, fixing up old things, and the sale in general). Plan accordingly! Give yourself some buffer for the added expense. A good rule of thumb: buy a less expensive home in a good location. Time will usually sort that one out nicely in your favor.

*The deep pockets of wisdom are actually an email thread with about twenty ridiculously savvy folks who are generous enough to let me ask pesky personal finance questions. These are gems from their answers, because they know about life and are pretty good at it.

 

Moneybags Magoo: Giving Gifts

Hi there, I’m Moneybags Magoo. Ask me a question and I’ll pull deep into my pockets of wisdom for an answer.* Keep in mind, these answers are targeted to those in their twenties. Should you be a fairly broke twenty-something (because education is expensive), you get a free pass in how much you can/want to spend. This month’s theme: giving gifts.

 

Dear Moneybags Magoo,

I’m going to a wedding next month and need to buy a present. I have no idea how much I’m supposed to spend. Help!

Yours truly,

Ignorant Wedding Bliss

 

Dear Ignorant Wedding Bliss,

Fear not. Let’s start with a good rule of thumb: buy a gift that would cover the cost of your wedding meal. The next question to consider is your budget: are you siphoning a chunk for gifts each month? Are you on a tight budget? Divvy up accordingly, and do your thang. If you just want a freaking number, here you go: shoot for $40-$60 (a wee less if single) and wish them a thousand years of happiness.

 

Dear Moneybags Magoo,

I have a lot of bridal showers to attend this spring; but I never know how much I should spend on the bride-to-be! What’s an appropriate amount for a bridal shower gift?

Sincerely,

Off to Victoria’s Secret

 

Dear Off to Victoria’s Secret,

Wedding bells are a ringin’ and boy they can sure get expensive. One thing to consider is if you’re going to the wedding and buying another gift. Think of their price tags together, and then you’ll feel a little more reasonable with spending (and you won’t go broke after a summer with seven weddings).  $20-$40 is a great amount.

 

Dear Moneybags Magoo,

I’m going to my first baby shower this weekend. The only question is, how much should I spend on the small human growing inside my friend?

Regards,

Uncharted Territory

 

Dear Uncharted Territory,

Fear not! Baby presents are easy. Their clothes are small and generally affordable.$20 is totally appropriate, and maybe $40 if the baby’s mama is in your inner circle.

 

Dear Moneybags Magoo,

Our friends just bought a house. How do I celebrate this life transition with them?

Cordially,

More Uncharted Territory, Practically in the Yukon

 

Dear More Uncharted Territory, Practically in the Yukon,

How thoughtful. How considerate! Housewarming gifts are op-shun-all. It’s actually the thought that counts on this one. Bake ‘em some bread (but watch out for the gluten-free folks. Then the thought doesn’t really count), bring flowers, draw a picture for their refrigerator. Should gift-giving be your love language and you just can’t help yourself, $10-$20 on a candle, vase, or other housey thing is just plain delightful.

 

*The deep pockets of wisdom are actually about twenty ridiculously savvy folks on an email thread who are generous enough to let me ask pesky personal finance questions. These are gems from their answers, because they know about life and are pretty good at it.